Monday, February 21, 2011

Times have changed

Things I can no longer enjoy since my husband decided I was no longer the girl for him
·         Muenster cheese
·         Etta James
·         The phrase: ‘I’m keeping you forever’
·         Cubist art
·         The Toronto Film Festival
·         Saturday mornings reading the Star in bed
·         The Sopranos
·         Paris, France
·         St Lawrence Market
·         The smell of a cigar
·         Pretty much any declaration of love
·         Ellicottville, New York
·         Vanity Fair Magazine
·         Tibetan restaurants
·         Rolling Stone Magazine
·         The late night snack
·         The company of his family
·         Candles
·         Coffee in bed
·         Wine in bed
·         Pusateri’s Fine Food Store
·         Cayne’s Houseware store
·         Ambrosia Natural Food Store
·         Yonge Street between Lawrence and Steeles
·         North York Public Library
·         City politics
·         Promises
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  1. AnonymousFebruary 21, 2011 at 8:20 PM

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  2. dreamerFebruary 21, 2011 at 9:16 PM

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  3. AnonymousFebruary 21, 2011 at 10:07 PM

    Bravo Alison, This is a healing process and you are doing a wonderful job of sharing with others the struggle you are having giving up hope and trying desperately to understand the cruelty of abandonment and betrayal. You have been terribly wronged on so many levels that it is hard to imagine where to begin. To feel defective and constantly being compared to his Mother or the so called "Strong Women" in his life would have been an impossible situation for anyone. Why should you have to be like someone else to gain favour. That is not love, that is self-indulgent and extremely selfish. Whose "Dream Marriage" was it???? Certainly not yours.... I would say that it was more of a nightmare for you as time went on and you could no longer act the part imposed on you. Regaining some of your own identity and wanting to express your anxieties in any shape or form, he withdraws and claims you are not the woman he thought you were. End of marriage, end of "Love Story" Excuse me for saying this, but what a load of CRAP...

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  4. TamlaFebruary 22, 2011 at 9:05 AM

    Hey Dreamer! Thanks for sharing your dreams. I am inspired to share some of mine with you. Can we get together sometime in March over a coffee or tea or whatever beverage you consume? Something you said to me in class at UOIT has stuck and continues to resonate. Keep dreaming and Walk Good!
    Tamla (m_tamla@hotmail.com)

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  6. dreamerFebruary 22, 2011 at 2:01 PM

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  7. J.R.February 22, 2011 at 3:19 PM

    To the butthurt anonymous commenter above:

    Seeing as this blog seems to bother you so much, I find it rather interesting that you continue to read it anyways. In the case that you have some type of brain disorder (which clearly you must, as you seem to believe that your comments are HELPFUL in some way), I would like to suggest that you take a trip to your nearest hospital rather than spread your hateful comments all over this poor woman's blog.

    Everyone has their own process of healing. Dreamer has chosen to share her own process with others. Last time I checked, that was not a crime. I find it quite incredible that you can sit up on your high horse and tell this woman what SHE should be doing in HER process of healing. How interesting that all one needs to do in order to escape the crippling pain of divorce is to "get out of pity, get focused, learn, send him love in your thoughts for the time you had together". I wasn't aware that there was a cure-all for this type of soul-destroying pain! So glad you could share! Next time, would you mind letting us know how one can move on from the pain of rape or abuse or some other equally traumatic event? Seeing as you ARE the guru of moving on from life-altering trauma!

    Regardless of who you are: a stranger, an insider or even the asshole who broke this woman's heart himself, it is very startling to me that you as a "moral human being" (quotations added due to my uncertainty that you are such a person) thought that it would be appropriate to point fingers and criticize a woman who has clearly been through a whole hell of a lot. I strongly recommend that you stop posting rude comments on this blog and do some self-examining of your own!

    - J

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  8. jennypennyFebruary 22, 2011 at 3:42 PM

    I agree with J.

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  9. AnonymousFebruary 22, 2011 at 5:44 PM

    Women must stand together and support one another with love and understanding. The greatest gift in life is love. You gave your all Alison and God knows you deserved so much more than you received. How destructive can one so called human being be???

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  10. JanetteFebruary 25, 2011 at 5:34 PM

    Actually, Dreamer, you have been more than fair to your faithless soon-to-be ex. I think you've given him the benefit of the doubt more often than he deserves and you're a better woman than I am -- I wouldn't have been so generous!

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